|Psychologist:||What’s your greatest fear?|
|Boyfriend:||Um, hmm… greatest fear. Spiders?|
|Psychologist:||Well, yes, but what about in your life if something was taken away or if you lost your job, elements like that.|
|Boyfriend:||Aah, I see what you mean. I think it would be my girlfriend. If she wakes up one day, looks at me and thinks I don’t want him by my side anymore. That she will fall out of love. That would be the hardest thing doc.|
|Psychologist:||Why do you fear this?|
|Boyfriend:||I don’t know, maybe because I love her so much and that one day it will probably happen. You know you hear about it, read articles about it that your relationship has like a 10 year lifespan. I don’t want to start again like that.|
|Psychologist:||What are you doing about it?|
|Boyfriend:||What do you mean?|
|Psychologist:||If you fear it, what are you doing to reduce the likelihood of your girlfriend falling out of love?|
|Psychologist:||That’s the problem. Not you of course, but fearing something and letting fear overwhelm your existence. Why not do something about it?|
|Boyfriend:||What should I do?|
|Psychologist:||Continue being you. She fell in love with you. Don’t change who you are. Don’t show any less emotion than you did when you first met. Don’t stop doing all the things you love doing together. Remember when you first started to date? When you spent two hours in front of the mirror making sure your hair is right, trying to find the perfect place to go for weeks, researching on the internet. Maybe you were lurking on internet forums getting advice if you should get a gift or not. All those things, especially the part where you spent hours upon hours looking inside each other’s universes and talking about everything that makes your eyes light up. People fail in relationships because they forget who they are in a relationship. They’re so overwhelmed with fear and worry they miss the good parts. They fall into routine, forget about their partners emotionally, become boring, needy and desperate until one day, one of them wants out.|
|Boyfriend:||Jesus, I didn’t think of it like that.|
|Psychologist:||Most of the time, it’s the simplest answer that will get you there. It got you there at the start, why wouldn’t it meet you at the end?|
Oh, here we go! A controversial issue I like! ;) Ya ready? The passage Leviticus 19:28 is the one many Christians use in the tattooing argument. However, the verse and its surrounding text is specifically dealing with the pagan religious rituals of the people living around the Israelites. God’s desire is to set his people apart from other cultures. The focus here is prohibiting worldly, heathen worship and witchcraft. God forbids his holy people to engage in idolatrous, pagan worship and sorcery which imitates the heathens. He does this out of protection, because he knows this will lead them away from the one true God.
It’s interesting to observe that a few verses later it says in verse 26, “Do not eat meat that has not been drained of its blood,” and verse 27, “Do not trim off the hair on your temples or trim your beards.” Well, certainly many Christians today eat non-kosher meats and get haircuts without participating in the forbidden worship of pagans. Back then these customs were associated with pagan rites and rituals. Today they are not.
If you are considering the question, “To tattoo or not to?” I think the more serious questions to ask yourself are: What are my motives for wanting a tattoo? Am I seeking to glorify God or draw attention to myself? Will getting a tattoo cause me to disobey my parents? Will my tattoo cause someone who is weak in the faith to stumble?
I believe that decisions like this should solely depend on the motives of your heart and the signification of what you’re getting on your body. Personally, I have six tattoos, four of them faith-based, so to me, those mean something. A couple of them are symbols, so I enjoy explaining the meanings of my tattoos to non-believers. I consider them creative and artistic, because they really are a type of art form; and where do we get creativity? God! He is our Creator and the greatest artist of all time. We are all made in His image, so I consider it a natural thing to have artistic desires. I like my tattoos, and despite what some people may think, they can’t judge me, only God can. It is my personal belief that getting a tattoo doesn’t make you any less of a Christian. God sees what’s on the inside, not the outside.